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June 2009

Sharing Some of my Thoughts and Reminders (Transparency).

Transparency is a sensitive area for a lot of us.  I am going to take a risk and show you a few of my internal notes and thoughts.  Below are some of the reminders I have learned along the way that I use on a regular basis to keep myself sane in an insane world.

Please remember this is me talking to me and not advising you.  If one of these items helps improve your business or your life, I will be very pleased.

These are in no particular order (although maybe they should be).

1. Self honesty.  All change comes through the truth.

2. Don't bring up the past.

3. Don't be "the fixer."

4. Reaction versus action.  Sometimes inaction IS action.

5. Do your best with TODAY.

6. Don't make your own conflict.

7. Let go.

8. Do your homework and do your footwork.

9. What I get is never going to equal to what I give.

10. You always have choices.

11. This too shall pass.

12. Stay out of another adults decision making unless I am asked to provide input.

13. Don't judge.

14. Set and adhere to boundaries.

15. HAVE GRACE.

16. Be aware of what you say and do and how it affects other people.

17. Be grateful.

18. Take care of yourself so you can be of service to others.

These are 18 off the top of my head.  I am sure there are another slew of reminders that I talk to myself everyday but this is a good start.

I am sharing my thought process with the goal of helping us to change our thinking and approach life more positively and live in the moment.

A Time to Plant Seeds

I have been witnessing many of us working harder during these difficult times and yielding less than we expect.  It is often during the most challenging of times when we have the greatest opportunity to plant seeds that will harvest in the future.  This is that time for many of us.

People have relationships and business with people that they know, like and trust.  The goal is to increase the equity in these relationships, not because we want to earn more money but because we have a servant leaders heart and we want to improve as many lives as possible.  The money will naturally follow.

I have included two Chinese proverbs as aids in helping us to raise our awareness of the need to plant trees and build windmills instead of standing on the sidelines.

"When the wind rises, some people build walls, others build windmills."

"When is the best time to plant a tree? A hundred years ago.  The second best time is now."

Action plan for us: Take some time EVERYDAY to do something to increase the emotional equity with our friends, relatives, referral sources, clients, potential clients and influencer's.

As we build equity in these relationships, they will bear fruit and that fruit will appear in the form of trust, likeability and revenue. 

Book and Music Recommendation

 "A Father's Legacy: Your Life Story in Your Own Words", assembled by Terri Gibbs.

This is a 12 month journal asking fathers key questions that will aid us in preserving their legacy for generations to come.  The questions include family history and childhood memories.  This is a great book for any father to complete. 

I bought this journal and gave it to my father on Father's Day 2005.  I asked him to complete it and return it to me on Father's Day 2006.  He returned the completed journal to me and included priceless family photos and my grandfather's passport which was stamped at Ellis Island as he made his way from Russia to America.

I did not know many of the memories my father detailed in this journal.  My intention is to give it to my kids and for them to give it to theirs and so on.  In my opinion, this information is priceless.  One additional reason I asked my father to complete the journal himself is so I have an example of his actual hand writing and the style in which he writes.

I did a similar exercise with my mother.

One note, there are some questions relating to Christianity and the bible which I removed from the journal before giving it to my father.  Because this is not the religion he practices, I chose to delete these.

This book is available at amazon.com.

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I have been listening to "Plays Paper Empire" which is the newest music from Better Than Ezra (BTE).  I am a huge fan of BTE and I have enjoyed all the music they have recorded.  I have been using the song, "Just One Day", from this collection during some of my Life Planning days.

Here is a sample of the lyrics to this very deep and moving song;

If you could change the choices you made,

would you do it - today?

If you could spin the world the other way,

Could you do it on faith?

If time would stand still,

What would you do?  What would you say?

If everyone you love came back for just one day?

How would it feel if every dream became real?

and the scars you have fade away

for just on day?

Imagine all the times that you could take back.

What would you have done differently?

Thoughts in your head that you never said

or a heart that you broke and left for dead.

If all the pain you had could be released

how life flies by.

And the night

all the good times and fights

all the take and the give

all the moments we never got to live

Quotation

The quote below applies to your life and your career. 

Attitude

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.

Attitude to me, is more important than facts.  It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do.

It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.  It will make or break a company...a church...a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...  I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes.

-Charles Swindoll.

A Closing Note

Thank you for reading this months newsletter.  I hope you are able to use some of the content to improve your life and/or your career.  If there is an opportunity for me to speak at an upcoming conference or meeting, please let me know.
 
If you like what you see, please feel free to review my web site at www.darylwizelman.com.  I speak on leadership, work/life balance, emotional intelligence and life planning among other topics that can be viewed on my web site.  I believe I can inspire your group and provide them with excellent practical tools to improve their career and their life.
 
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Again, thank you for your interest.
 
Daryl

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