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September 2009 Newsletter

Today I will Make a Difference

 Today I will make a difference.  I will begin by controlling my thoughts.  A person is the product of their thoughts.  I want to be happy and hopeful.  Therefore, I will have thoughts that are happy and hopeful.  I refuse to be victimized by my circumstances.  I will not let petty inconveniences such as stoplights, long lines and traffic jams be my masters.  I will avoid negativism and gossip.  Optimism will be my companion, and victory will be my hallmark.  Today I will make a difference.

I will be grateful for the twenty-four hours that are before me.  Time is a precious commodity.  I refuse to allow what little time I have to be contaminated by self-pity, anxiety, or boredom.  I will face this day with the joy of a child and the courage of a giant.  I will drink each minute as though it is my last.  When tomorrow comes, today will be gone forever.  While it is here, I will use it for loving and giving.  Today I will make a difference.

I will not let past failures haunt me.  Even thought my life is scarred with mistakes, I refuse to rummage through my trash heap of failures.  I will admit them.  I will correct them.  I will press on victoriously.  No failure is fatal.  It's OK to stumble - I will get up.  It's OK to fail - I will rise again.  Today I will make a difference.

I will spend time with those I love.  My spouse, my children, my family.  A man can own the world but be poor for the lack of love.  A man can own nothing and yet be wealthy in relationships.  Today I will spend at least five minutes with the significant people in my world.  Five quality minutes of talking or hugging or thanking or listening.  Five undiluted minutes with my mate, children and friends.

Today I will make a difference.

Max Lucado

From On the Anvil

Simple but Easily Forgotten.

 Are there people in your world who you need to reach out to?  Today I challenge you to reach out to someone who needs you and say one or more of the following;

I love you.

I miss you.

Thank you...

Will you forgive me?

Book and Music Recommendation

"Crucial Conversations" is a must read!  The book solidifies what many have said before: those who understand how to communicate effectively have a lot of power.  It's not all about knowledge, skills, manipulation or strength...  Those who can get groups of people who distrust each other to come to genuine consensus will always have power.  Why? Because it's so incredibly difficult...and it is so incredibly important.

This book helps you to identify the behaviors that help - and the behaviors that hurt - when building consensus.  Make no mistake about it: human beings are poorly designed to get along with each other.  Our brains are wired for competition.  At most, we generally cooperate with genetically similar groups.  Evolution has wired us to not want to work together with people too different from ourselves, lest we threaten our own survival.

This book helps the reader to identify which behaviors are hindering you.  When confronted, a human's instinct is fight or flight.  In a conversation, the fight instinct comes out in argument, sarcasm, or belittling.  Likewise, the flight instinct comes out as quiet and passive, or totally ignoring what the other person said...typically passive- aggressive behavior.

Crucial Conversations" also presents exercises to help you keep a cool head, communicate clearly, and get things done...despite your evolutionary wiring.

If you read this book, and practice their exercises a lot, you will gain a reputation as somebody who can make things happen.This book is available at amazon.com.

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I have been listening to some of the mixed CD's I have made over the years.  A song from 1990 hit me on a deep emotional level.  It proves that music has the power to move people for many years after it is released.  I love that!

The song is called "Right Now" from Van Halen's For "Unlawful Carnal Knowledge" release.

I have reprinted some of the lyrics from the song to give you a flavor of this amazing writing.

"Right Now"

Don't want to wait til tomorrow

Why put it off another day?

One by one, little problems

build up and stand in our way

One step ahead, one step behind it

Now you gotta run to get even

Make future plans I'll dream about yesterday

Come on turn, turn this thing around

Chorus

 Right now! It's your tomorrow

 Right now! come on, it's everything

Right now! catch your magic moment

Do it right here and now

It means everything

Miss a beat, you lose a rhythm

and nothin' falls into place

Only missed by a fraction

slipped a little of your pace

The more things you get, the more you want

Just trade in one for another

working so hard to make it easy down the line

Got to turn, come on

Turn this thing around

 Chorus

 Right now! It's your tomorrow

Right now! come on, it's everything

Right now! catch that magic moment

Do it right here and now

It means everything

Said a lie to me

Right now

What are you waiting for?

Right now

 It's what's happening

Right here and now

Right now, it's right now

Tell me what are you waiting for?

Turn this thing around

Quotation

"Excellence is an ART won by training and habituation.  We do not act rightly because we have virtue and excellence, but rather we have those, because we have acted rightly.  We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."

     -Aristotle 

A Closing Note

Thank you for reading this months newsletter.  I hope you are able to use some of the content to improve your life and/or your career.  If there is an opportunity for me to speak at an upcoming conference or meeting, please let me know.
 
If you like what you see, please feel free to review my web site at www.darylwizelman.com.  I speak on leadership, work/life balance, emotional intelligence and life planning among other topics that can be viewed on my web site.  I believe I can inspire your group and provide them with excellent practical tools to improve their career and their life.
 
There is also a "forward email" button below the coupon.  Please forward this newsletter to anyone that you believe would derive benefit from its content.
 
Again, thank you for your interest.
 
Daryl

Daryl Wizelman
www.darylwizelman.com
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