Daryl Wizelman
Daryl Wizelman

speaker

consultant motivator

www.darylwizelman.com

818-876-7337


August 2009 Newsletter

Daryl Wizelman
Daryl Wizelman Daryl Wizelman

Hello, 
 
Thank you for reading my newsletter for August 2009.  My desired end result from sending this newsletter to you is that you will be inspired and learn practical tools that can improve your life and your career or business.
 
Although I am sending this to you with the hope that it will improve your life, I would also like to have the opportunity to speak to your team, organization or business.   
 
My mission/purpose in life is to have a positive impact on as many lives as possible by empowering others to help themselves.
 
If you would like more information on how you can hire me to speak to your group, please email me at
daryl@wizelman.com or call me at 818-876-7337 ext. 222.

Daryl Wizelman

Good Advice

 The following is a random sample of good advice.

1. Never borrow from the future.  If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain.  Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice...

 2. Get up on time so you can begin your day without rushing.

3. Say no to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.

4. Delegate tasks to others who are capable.

5. Simplify and unclutter your life.

6. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.

7. Pace yourself.  Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time. 

8. Take one day at a time.

9. Separate worries from concerns. 

10. Live within your financial budget.

11. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut).  This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.

12. Do something for the kid in you everyday.

13. Get enough rest.

14. Reflect and journal.

15. Laugh.

16. Take your work seriously but don't take yourself too seriously.

17. Have grace for others.

18. Be kind to unkind people.

19. Leave your ego behind.

20. Talk less.  Listen more.

21. Slow down.

22. Remember that control is an illusion.

The lesson: Heighten your awareness (emotional intelligence) and you will improve your life and your career.

Daryl Wizelman

Cope versus Control

There are no answers in the pantry or the refrigerator.

In these challenging economic times many of us turn to food to comfort us.  Either unhealthy food or eating too much food.  I love a good pizza and ice cream just like many of you do.  However, for many of us, we are under more stress and pressure than we have endured in many years.

We must be more aware than ever of our weight and our fitness.  I am not suggesting that tomorrow we eat only raw vegetables and spend 2 hours working out.   I am suggesting that most of us can do a better job with consistency.  Being disciplined in what we eat, how much we eat and how much and how hard we work out.

Action plan for us

1. Be aware of what you are eating and set some easy to accomplish goals to lose weight and lower body fat.  Cut out one or two foods that are not worth the calories.

2. Set a work out schedule and stick to it.  Do the exercise you enjoy.  Walk, run, hike, tennis, swimming, weight lifting, riding a bike, surfing, working out in a gym etc...  We are all motivated to do what we WANT to do.  Find something you enjoy and do it!

3. Find an accountability partner to ensure you stay on track with your eating habits and work our schedule. 

Vision/Result: Discipline and consistency in our eating and exercising will help us to be healthier for the people we love and those we lead.  Those we lead/influence include our children, employees, clients, co-workers, friends etc...  Our influence is stronger than we believe it is.

Challenge: How many people can we inspire by leading by example in health and fitness?

Daryl Wizelman

Book and Music Recommendation

 

"Tribes" is a short (151 pages) but powerful read about how vital great leadership is to our lives and to our careers.  There are many examples of the power of "Tribes" but the following is one of my favorites from the book;

"Leadership is Not Management"

"In a classic I Love Lucy episode, Lucy and Ethel are working on a candy assembly line.  As the candies come faster and faster and faster, the two of them panic, stuffing truffles into their mouths to keep up with the onslaught.

They had a management problem.

Management is about manipulating resources to get a known job done.  Burger King franchises hire managers.  They know exactly what they need to deliver and they are given resources to do it at a low cost.  Managers manage a process they've seen before, and they react to the outside world, striving to make the process as fast and as cheap as possible.

Leadership, on the other hand, is about creating change that you believe in.

My thesaurus says the best synonym for leadership is management.  Maybe that word used to fit, but no longer. Movements have leaders and leaders make things happen.

Leaders have followers.  Managers have employees.

Managers make widgets.  Leaders make change.

Change?  Change is frightening, and to many people who would be leaders, it seems more of a threat than a promise.  That's too bad, because the future belongs to our leaders, regardless of where they work or what they do.

This book is available at amazon.com.

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I have been listening to "Big Whiskey & The GrooGrux King" by Dave Matthews Band (DMB).  It is an amazing record dedicated and inspired by LeRoi Moore, the band's saxophonist since their inception (1991) who passed away last year. 

I have never been much of a DMB fan but this music is inspiring and very moving.  My favorite song on the LP is "Funny the Way It Is."

The lyrics below are ironic and inspiring but the lyrics combined with the power of the DMB music is what really makes it great.

I have reprinted some of the lyrics from the song to give you a flavor of this amazing writing.

"Funny the Way It Is"

Lying in the park on a beautiful day,

 sunshine in the grass and the children play.

Siren's passing, fire engine red,

Someone's house is burning down on a day like this?

The evening comes and we're hanging out,

On the front step, and a car rolls by with the windows rolled down,

That War song is playing "Why can't we be friends?"

Someone is screaming and crying in the apartment upstairs

Chorus

Funny the way it is, if you think about it

Somebody's going hungry and someone else is eating out

Funny the way it is, not right or wrong

Somebody's heart is broken and it becomes your favorite song

The way your mouth feels in your lovers kiss

Like a pretty bird on a breeze or water to a fish

A bomb blast brings a building crashing to the floor

You can hear the laughter, while the children play war.

Chorus

Funny the way it is, if you think about it

One kid walks 10 miles to school, another's dropping out

Funny the way it is, not right or wrong

On a soldiers last breath his baby's being born

Watch the sky, the jet planes so far out of my reach

Is there someone up there looking down on me?

A boy chase a bird, so close but every time

He'll never catch her, but he can't stop trying

Chorus

Funny the way it is, if you think about it

One kid walks 10 miles to school, another's dropping out

Funny the way it is, not right or wrong

On a soldiers last breath his baby's being born

Funny the way it is, nor right or wrong

Somebody's broken heart becomes your favorite song

Daryl Wizelman

Quotation

The Critic

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.  The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement; and who, at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."

         -Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt

 

Daryl Wizelman

A Closing Note

Thank you for reading this months newsletter.  I hope you are able to use some of the content to improve your life and/or your career.  If there is an opportunity for me to speak at an upcoming conference or meeting, please let me know.
 
If you like what you see, please feel free to review my web site at
www.darylwizelman.com.  I speak on leadership, work/life balance, emotional intelligence and life planning among other topics that can be viewed on my web site.  I believe I can inspire your group and provide them with excellent practical tools to improve their career and their life.
 
There is also a "forward email" button below the coupon.  Please forward this newsletter to anyone that you believe would derive benefit from its content.
 
Again, thank you for your interest.
 
Daryl

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daryl@wizelman.com

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