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February 2011 Newsletter

Hope

To me hope is the belief that what I desire to happen will become reality.

The big caveat to this belief is I never know WHEN my envisioned future will occur.  I don't know what will happen in my business or in my personal life but I always try to maintain hope that what I want will happen.  I also know that because some areas of my life are not where I want them to be today, tomorrow can and will bring change.  I am doing everything I can to ensure that the changes that occur are positive and lead to the extraordinary life I envision for myself.

Some of the things I do include;

1. I write a life plan (a business plan for my life) every year.  I write about my hopes and dreams and what actions I need to take to ensure that what I write about becomes the reality of my life.  I read it at least once each month and spend time each year in December re-writing the plan.

2. I help as many people as possible get what they want in their lives.  I utilize my platform as a leader, friend, father, brother, son and partner to give without the expectation of getting anything in return.

 3. I spend time and money on personal growth.  The more I grow and learn, the more I can forward to others. 

Hope is internal.  It is a set of beliefs that good is coming.  I believe that good is coming for me and for those around me.

My view is that hope is the belief that what I envision for my life will become reality. 

Points on how to Improve your Life by Randy Pausch

I am constantly looking for perspective.  One of my favorite books, The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch and Max Zaslow, is a great look to gain perspective on the blessings in our lives and how grateful we must be. 

Randy Pausch died of pancreatic cancer in 2008 at the age of 48.  After his diagnosis he wrote the book as a "letter" to his wife Jai and his 3 young children.  Included in his writing was a "guide to a better life" written for his wife and children to follow after he was gone.  Below is a part of that writing.  My hope is that Randy's advice will bring you perspective and added gratitude for your own life.

Personality:

1. Don't compare yourself to others.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control.  Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.

3. Don't overdo; keep your limits.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does.

5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

6. Dream more while you are awake.

7. Envy is a waste of time.  You already have all you need.

8. Forget issues of the past.  Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past.  That will ruin your present happiness.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.  Don't hate others.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.

...problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

13. Smile and laugh more.

14. You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to disagree.

Community:

15. Call your family often.

16. Each day give something good to others.

17. Forgive everyone for everything.

18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

19. Try to make at least 3 people smile each day.

20. What other people think of you is none of your business.

21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick.  Your family and friends will.  Stay in touch.

Life:

22. Do the right things.

23. However good or bad the situation is, it will change.

24. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

25. The best is yet to come.

26. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

27. Be grateful.

28. Be happy.

Book and Music Recommendation

The Script released their second record in the past couple of weeks.  They are an amazing Irish 3-piece band producing beautiful music that contain lyrics that may serve as the soundtrack to many of our lives.  The Script has become one of my favorite bands.  I hope you feel as inspired as I do when you listen to their music.

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I hear from a lot of people about wanting to be better organized.  It is easier said than done.  However organization can lead to greater productivity and thus to more income, happier clients and more time to spend doing the things you want to do with the people you want to be with.  Peter Senge has written a very good book about the art and practical application of getting and staying organized.  There is material in the book that will help you if you are dreadfully disorganized or if you are very organized.  Enjoy the read!

Quotation

This month's quote comes from my friend Matt Fowlie. 

"Beauty I have learned from the ugly, charity from the unkind, and peace from the turmoil of the world."

     -Frederick Ward Kates

A Closing Note

Thank you for reading this month's newsletter.  I hope you are able to use some of the content to improve your life and/or your career.  If there is an opportunity for me to speak at an upcoming conference or meeting, please let me know.
 
If you like what you see, please feel free to review my web site at www.darylwizelman.com.  I speak on leadership, work/life balance, strategic initiatives, emotional intelligence and life planning among other topics that can be viewed on my web site.  I believe I can inspire your group and provide them with excellent practical tools to improve their career and their life.
 
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Daryl

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